Here’s your reminder that there’s a difference between diversity and true equity. RInku Sen writes (emphasis mine):
I’ve seen dozens of “diverse” workplaces in which all the people of color are in the manual jobs and all the women are doing clerical work. All work has dignity and value, but no one should be stuck in a position they’ve outgrown because employers segregate their workers by race and gender. In the high end of the restaurant industry, for example, I’ve heard a never-ending round of stories from men of color (because women still can’t get a foot in that door) about working as a busser for years, knowing every item on the menu, and never being able to get one of the front-of-the-house jobs because they don’t fit the profile of a high-end waiter.Diversity is a start, a good start even, but it cannot be our end goal. The end goal has to be shared power, responsibility and reward—in short, equity. To get to equity, we have to promote fair treatment both before and after hiring.
1. Don’t put drugs in
2. When you see a
womanperson walking by herself, leave herthem alone.
3. If you pull over to help a woman whose car has broken down, remember not to rape her.
4. If you are in an elevator and
a womansomeone gets in, don’t rape herthem.
5. When you encounter
a womansomeone who is asleep, the safest course of action is to not rape herthem.
6. Never creep into
a woman’ssomeone’s home through an unlocked door or window, or spring out at herthem from between parked cars, or rape herthem.
7. Remember, people go to the laundry room to do their laundry. Do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
8. Use the Buddy System! If it is inconvenient for you to stop yourself from raping
womenpeople, ask a trusted friend to accompany you at all times.
9. Carry a rape whistle. If you find that you are about to rape someone, blow the whistle until someone comes to stop you.
10. Don’t forget: Honesty is the best policy. When asking
a womanperson out on a date, don’t pretend that you are interested in herthem as a person; tell herthem straight up that you expect to be raping herthem later. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the womanperson may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape herthem.
Let’s see how many rapists see this.
Fixed the language. Rape happens across all genders and orientations, and is under-reported within the GLBTQ community as well as by cis women. Predators exist, no matter what flag you’re flying.
*trigger warning: jokes about rape*
This is something that happened to a friend of mine in her own words.
“So, on Friday night my friend and I were at her house and wanted to get out and do something for the evening. We brainstormed ideas and she brought up the idea of seeing a show at the Laugh Factory. I’d never been, I thought it sounded fun, so we went. We saw that Dane Cook, along some other names we didn’t recognize we’re playing, and while we both agree that Cook’s style is not really our taste we were opened-minded about what the others had to offer. And we figured even good ol’ Dane can be funny sometimes, even if it’s not really our thing. Anyhoo, his act was actually fine, but then when his was done, some other guy I didn’t recognize took the stage. Of course, I would find out later this was Daniel Tosh, but at the time I thought he was just some yahoo who somehow got a gig going on after Cook. I honestly thought he was an amateur because he didn’t seem that comfortable on stage and seemed to have a really awkward presence.
So Tosh then starts making some very generalizing, declarative statements about rape jokes always being funny, how can a rape joke not be funny, rape is hilarious, etc. I don’t know why he was so repetitive about it but I felt provoked because I, for one, DON’T find them funny and never have. So I didnt appreciate Daniel Tosh (or anyone!) telling me I should find them funny. So I yelled out, “Actually, rape jokes are never funny!”
I did it because, even though being “disruptive” is against my nature, I felt that sitting there and saying nothing, or leaving quietly, would have been against my values as a person and as a woman. I don’t sit there while someone tells me how I should feel about something as profound and damaging as rape.
After I called out to him, Tosh paused for a moment. Then, he says, “Wouldn’t it be funny if that girl got raped by like, 5 guys right now? Like right now? What if a bunch of guys just raped her…” and I, completely stunned and finding it hard to process what was happening but knowing i needed to get out of there, immediately nudged my friend, who was also completely stunned, and we high-tailed it out of there. It was humiliating, of course, especially as the audience guffawed in response to Tosh, their eyes following us as we made our way out of there. I didn’t hear the rest of what he said about me.
Now in the lobby, I spoke with the girl at the will-call desk, and demanded to see the manager. The manager on duty quickly came out to speak with me, and she was profusely apologetic, and seemed genuinely sorry about what had happened, but of course we received no refund for our tickets, but instead a comped pair of tickets, although she admitted she understood if we never wanted to come back. I can imagine the Laugh Factory doesn’t really have a policy in place for what happens when a woman has to leave in a hurry because the person onstage is hurling violent words about sexual violence at her. Although maybe I’m not the first girl to have that happen to her.
I should probably add that having to basically flee while Tosh was enthusing about how hilarious it would be if I was gang-raped in that small, claustrophic room was pretty viscerally terrifying and threatening all the same, even if the actual scenario was unlikely to take place. The suggestion of it is violent enough and was meant to put me in my place.”
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signal boost. This is fucking terrible and I am so so sorry you had to deal with that.